MY HUSBAND AND I PASTOR a small church in British Columbia. We began asking ministries we knew and respected to recommend an inner healing ministry. They all said, “You need to look into Restoring the Foundations.” We did and we’re sold on it.
We felt as if we couldn’t ask our people and leaders to go to RTF for ministry if we weren’t willing to model it ourselves. We’ve both been through the RTF sessions with Wayne and Marilyn Gray and it was one of the most impacting things we’ve done – for us personally, for our marriage and for our ministry.
We are so committed to what RTF does that we have sent our entire leadership team, plus a number of couples and singles from our church, through this ministry. If people do the work required, the results are long-lasting and life-changing. Our leadership is in a healthier place in their personal lives and ministry, and it’s spilling over into our church and our city.
Although people usually have misgivings about the expense before they go through the ministry, afterwards, they say, “I’d have paid 10 times that amount for the ministry I just received,” or “If I’d known how good this was going to be, I’d have gone sooner!”
We recommend Wayne and Marilyn; they are thorough, discerning, wise, and gracious in their ministry. We recommend running – not walking – to the nearest phone to make your appointment!
-Alf and Pam Dyck
The River Community Church
Abbotsford, BC, Canada
WAYNE AND MARILYN GRAY ARE ANOINTED and seasoned through much experience; they are mature bringers of new life. They represent Restoring the Foundations ministries with great integrity and richness. You will be greatly blessed in receiving their ministry.
-Chester and Betsy Kylstra
Founders, Restoring the Foundations
WE HAVE BEEN PRIVILEGED to minister alongside Wayne and Marilyn. We appreciate the gifts God has placed within them. They are a wonderful example of a godly marriage and team. We highly recommend their ministry.
-Gary and Danice Duda
Senior pastors, Great Grace Ministries
THE OTHER DAY A FRIEND SAID TO ME, “You’ve sure changed since Restoring the Foundations. You engage more with others, you’re more comfortable and confident when interacting, and you have taken a much stronger role as a leader.”
Wayne and Marilyn provide such an atmosphere of peace and safety that it’s easy to relax and take care of heart business. The Holy Spirit is clearly leading and directing the Grays, providing them with tools to respond effectively. After the weekend I felt a great freedom from burdens I hadn’t realized I was carrying. The greatest impact has been the freedom to be who God made me to be and worry less about what others think of me. RTF gave me new tools to deal with life and the issues that the Spirit brings to my attention on an ongoing basis.
Abbotsford, BC Canada
MARILYN AND WAYNE PROVIDED a loving, safe, and relaxed atmosphere during their Restoring the Foundations intensive. Their steadfast seeking of God’s revelation allowed the Holy Spirit to freely minister, which led to my experiencing the depths of God’s love.
A CLOUD OF DEPRESSION had firmly settled over my life, and I scarcely believed God would do the kind of healing I needed. I feared that if I opened my heart, mind, and spirit to let God work, that I’d completely fall apart. But after my Restoring the Foundations weekend, I felt as if a heavy coat had been taken from my shoulders. I could embrace my emotions and not fear them overwhelming me anymore. God did exceedingly more than I imagined! I am so thankful to Him for using Wayne and Marilyn’s gifts, insights, and discernment – as well as the RTF process – to so radically change my life.
Abbotsford, BC, Canada
WHEN MY FIANCÉ, Kevin, and I started our Restoring the Foundations ministry on January 1, 2009, it was the greatest start to the new year we could have imagined. Our relationship had come through some difficult struggles, and we knew something had to change or we would destroy each other and lose the gift of friendship and love God had given to us.
I struggled with deep mistrust issues and fear of being hurt and abandoned. This fear manifested itself in massive anxiety attacks that left me unable to eat, sleep, or function normally. Outside of this darkness in my life, I loved God and I loved my fiancé dearly. I wanted to spread joy and healing to others, yet I knew I needed freedom and a new foundation before I could do those things effectively.
Wayne and Marilyn helped me dig deep into my past to uncover childhood wounds that were impacting my relationship with Kevin. In May 2009, Kevin and I married, and I know we never would have made it to the other side of the covenant without first being healed and released of our strongholds. By going through RTF together, Kevin and I have become best friends, loyal teammates, and fierce lovers of God.
Our ability to communicate has matured to a place where we have the emotional integrity to support each other and express even the hardest of needs.
The Battle Techniques we learned taught us how to fight spiritually together and for each other. Because of the RTF ministry, we are constantly evolving in God’s healing love and allowing Him to restore all areas of our lives.
I CAME FROM A BACKGROUND OF ADDICTION and a troubled childhood. I struggled with sexual addiction and quite frankly, was getting my butt kicked by the enemy when my fiancé and I began the Restoring the Foundations ministry. With Wayne and Marilyn’s help, I was not only able to heal the roots of these issues; I also closed the door permanently to the enemy’s hand in my life. With these new foundations in place, I’m the one who’s doing the butt-kicking.
Ultimately, God has done the work, but with a brave heart, a strong wife by my side, an excellent RTF ministry, and good friends like Wayne and Marilyn, I can’t help but think that I made the right choice to let God use these people to help me in my journey. I have beaten addiction and moreover, won my life back. I’m forever grateful.
THROUGHOUT MOST OF MY LIFE, I believed I was lazy, hopeless, and unworthy. Wayne and Marilyn’s Restoring the Foundations ministry was life-altering; they helped me understand my true identity in Christ… that I’m worthy, helpful, and hopeful. On the days the enemy tries to steal my joy, I’m able to claim the truth as to how God sees me, and that truth sets me free.
Chilliwack, BC, Canada
Age 39, married with two kids
I USED TO THINK church leaders didn’t have time for me. Wayne and Marilyn’s ministry helped me break free from what I call “Mennonite passivity.” I am becoming bolder about sharing God’s word, and bold in my relationship with my wife.
WHEN I WAS A CATHOLIC, I felt almost as if I was worshiping the crucifix. I felt a lingering sense of oppression, deception, and false identity. Since participating in Wayne and Marilyn’s ministry, I’ve experienced freedom from oppression, and my marriage has been strengthened; my husband and I fell in love all over again. I wrote the following poem to express my thanks to God:
Today I begin a new identity in Christ.
Who I really am.
No longer believing the lies of the enemy, even for one second. There is no more room for the trickery of Satan.
No longer believing that I am a failure, for I am truthfully successful.
No longer believing that I am a rescuer.
God is the true RESCUER.
However, I am an encourager.
No longer feeling that I am a victim and abandoned,
Instead, I am wanted and victorious.
When I am victorious in Christ Jesus, then God is truly doing his way,
Overcoming addictions, anger and shame.
We can fill our purpose in life. We can feel free, happy, content and confident.
Confident to let go of bitterness and feel understanding.
Confident enough to let go of control and be led by the Spirit.
Confident enough to be obedient to God’s will and fearlessly face our worries.
To know the truth that we are forgiven as we forgive others.
Not to carry guilt around to make us feel helpless.
Instead to feel strengthened through God.
To feel more than adequate.
To be seen and understood.
Not to feel invisible.
To truly know God’s LOVE!