Restoring The Foundations
That’s the analogy we use in our Restoring the Foundations (RTF) ministry sessions. We feel honored to serve as RTF ministers, because we’ve seen incredible healing take place – not only in marriages on the brink of disaster, but also in healthy marriages.
Many of the people we minister to are pastors and church leaders; we’ve seen how healing within individual marriages expands and facilitates healing within the larger body of Christ.
Restoring the Foundations is a personal, one-to-one ministry, during which we meet with couples (both jointly and individually) in our home. During our ministry sessions, we cover a wide gamut of marital issues; we focus not only on the challenges in a marriage, but also, on the great things about that marriage.
Some of the key areas for which many couples seek healing include:
- Communication – Feeling misunderstood, ignored, under-valued, or stuck in a hopeless situation
- Sexual issues – Sexual addiction, pornography, feeling unfulfilled sexually, struggling with fantasy or lust
- Fear and anxiety –Fear of abandonment, fear of abuse, fear of the future, fear of not measuring up, trust issues, and other fears and anxieties
- Childhood trauma – Hurts arising from childhood relationships with parents that carry over into adulthood, marriage, and parenting; abandonment, neglect, abuse, alcoholism
Each couple receives 36 hours of personal ministry with Wayne and Marilyn (unmarried individuals receive a total of 15 hours of personal ministry).
Here is a brief overview of what each three-hour ministry session “looks” like:
Joint session (both spouses) meet with Wayne and Marilyn to discuss the personal information questionnaire the couple completed prior to the session. We help the couple pinpoint hurts, ungodly beliefs, and patterns that need to be addressed. We also focus on what is working in the marriage so we can build on those ingredients.
During five, 3-hour sessions in which Wayne and Marilyn meet individually with each spouse (a total of 30 hours), we use the RTF principles to work through four key problem areas:
1. Sins of the Fathers and the Resulting Curses
This problem is rooted in the second commandment (Ex. 20:3-6), where God visits “the iniquities of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generations.”
God requires us to confess our ancestors’ sin as well as our own (Lev 26:40).
We help you focus on the confession of sin (I John 1:9) and appropriation of Christ’s finished work on the Cross to break curses (Gal 3:13) and recover “legal ground” from the enemy.
2. Ungodly Beliefs
Each of us has formed ungodly beliefs from life’s circumstances as well as from our ancestors (i.e., parents, grandparents). We guide you through a process of repentance and renewing your mind (Rom 12:2) to help you change ungodly beliefs into Godly beliefs.
3. Soul/Spirit Hurts
Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted (Lk 4:18). As we “wait upon the Lord” with “listening prayer,” He heals the hurts of our soul and spirit. He shows us what He wants to heal, and then, after we take care of necessary forgiveness and releasing, He heals what He has shown.
4. Demonic Oppression
After we have “co-labored with Christ” to bring freedom and healing to the first three ministry areas in our lives, the various demonic strongholds oppressing us can be disassembled and destroyed (Mk 16:17).
During our final 3-hour joint session, we bring the couple back together and give them an opportunity to deal with forgiveness issues and to share their insights and revelation from their personal ministry healing time. We model healthy ways to communicate with one another and help the couple come up with a plan and strategy to support each other in their “walking out” process.
Frequently Asked Questions about RTF:
How long have you been RTF ministers?
We have been doing RTF ministry full-time since 2000. Because Wayne has an additional full-time job, we usually conduct RTF sessions on weekends at our home in Olympia, WA.
Is RTF ministry limited to married couples?
No. We adapt the RFT principles for use with single individuals.
How can I be sure RTF ministry is confidential?
Before you begin RTF, you will sign a confidentiality agreement. Legally and ethically, information you share with us may not be disclosed without your written consent. The “Waiver of Liability” form details certain situations (for example, physical or sexual abuse being done to a minor child or any issues dealing with suicide) that we are legally required to report. Married couples are also assured that no confidentiality will be broken regarding the spouses’ individual ministry time. Spouses will decide what details of their individual ministry sessions they want to share with each other.
What qualifications do Wayne and Marilyn have to conduct this ministry?
Wayne and Marilyn are ordained ministers under Betsy and Chester Kylstra and the Healing House Network in Hendersonville, North Carolina. They are qualified as Restoring the Foundations ministers, seminar leaders, and trainers.
When can I expect breakthroughs to occur in my marriage?
We believe in starting our ministry with you right where you are at. Some people open up right away and begin making breakthroughs; for others, it doesn’t happen until the second couples’ session. Our passion as RTF ministers is to help you restore a strong foundation in your marriage and in your personal life. Without exception, breakthroughs always happen during our ministry sessions; the exciting part of the journey is experiencing how God breaks down the barriers that hold you back from walking in the full destiny the Lord has for you.
How will you prepare me (and my spouse) to keep moving forward in positive ways after our RTF ministry sessions end?
We not only help people restore the foundations of their relationship, we equip them with a “toolbox.” When a particular “red flag” situation or challenge arises, they can pull a card out of their toolbox to help each other identify the hurt or ungodly belief. The “tool” guides them through the situation so they can administer and receive healing – together.
How much does the 36 hours of RTF ministry cost?
The cost is $1,950 per couple for 36 hours of personal ministry, or $975 for individuals for 15 hours of personal ministry. If additional ministry is required, the cost is $65 per hour.
Do you provide grants or discounts?
Time and time again, people’s first response when they learn the fee is, “I can’t afford that.” However, our experience is that when people step out in obedience to the Lord, funds become available. We are open to working out payment plans with individuals if necessary, and we consider individual requests. We have found it is very important for you to invest in your own healing.
I sense God calling me to become an RTF minister. Do you provide training?
Yes! Wayne and Marilyn are internationally qualified RTF trainers and seminar leaders. We will travel to your church or facility (anywhere in the world!) to conduct training for you individually or for your church staff. For more information, contact Freedomtrain Ministries.
Where can I learn more about Restoring the Foundations?
Visit Restoring The Foundations Web site.
Ready to get started?
If you are interested in having us minister to you, please order the Ministry Receiver’s Preparation Packet at your earliest convenience and at least two weeks prior to your ministry date. It contains the following:
- DVD Welcome message and Introduction
- Hard cover of Restoring the Foundations manual
- Handout with selected RTF readings to encourage you to become familiar with the process
- The Shame-Fear-Control Stronghold CDs and paperwork
- Two Ministry Application forms
- Other information to prepare you for this healing journey
This packet is priced at $45.00 plus shipping and can be ordered at the RTF Online store.(**)
IMPORTANT: (**) To receive a 5% discount on this or any other resource in the Resource store, please enter the promo code: GRAW1
Once the application forms are filled out, please mail or e-mail two (2) copies of each application to:
8525 Oxford Avenue SE
Olympia, WA 98503
On another note: We are committed to helping you walk out your healing so our home office has prepared a 30-day walkout plan for you to keep the freedom you received through your ministry. Click the following link to sign up for daily “Walking It Out” emails. Again, please use the promo code of GRAW1.